Question

I heard you on Christian Carter's "inside the
mind of a man". I was impressed and got your e
book and started reading your material. I haven't
got very far but like what I read.

Long story short, I like someone who has a
girlfriend. That doesn't sound too good I know,
but we met cuz of business and I had the boldness to ask if he was seeing someone, and when I heard from him that he
was, I wrote him a email to thank him for the business and
to say goodbye....

Well, he wanted to stay in touch....I am a widow, and
he had lost his ex-wife....so we are both raising kids on
our own. He wanted to share those things. We
both had attraction though....

Anyway....again long story short....it is hard to get
him out of my mind. I have a feeling it might have
something to do with my loss....and also about the rejection I felt as a child, having a father there but who never connected with me.....never even had a conversation with me that I remember.

How can I go back and get this hurt healed from my dad
and husband leaving (I think it is mostly due to my
dad)? I just want to be free in my life.....

Thank you!!!!!! I hope you have some words for
me....if I cannot listen to the call will you be sending it
by MP3 or could you email me any thoughts? Thank you
immensly for my heart doesn't want to lose connection
with this guy but I want to be free and do the right thing
too.

Thank you Christel!!!!

Response

Hi Love,

Thank you for your question, and yes, I will make the audio available to the group.

It is apparent that this guy came into your life as a gift. The gift of setting you on your path of deeper healing and clearing your Dad issues.

There are many ways of deeply cleaning up the past and that is what I do in private sessions, fast and final. But let's talk about where you are with this guy.

It is great to start accepting the gift and doing some work... also, we need to notice your tendencies toward just filling up your mind with maybes, what ifs and it could happen.

There are two ways you can go at this:

1) Let him go completely and do your healing work, trusting that if it is meant to be, it will be... just like it happened with Adam and me.

2) Stay connected with him with set limits and do your healing/clearing work simultaneously.

The first option means that you will totally honor his current relationship... no flirting... healthy boundaries as friends, maybe connecting every few months.

The second one is a little trickier and it may be a roller coaster ride of emotions... because there is a tendency to have expectations build up in the mind for more, more and more intimacy, connection and hints of possibilities.

What I can promise you is that if you choose to take the time now to totally heal your childhood issues, then you will begin attracting healthier situations with men. When there lies within toxic energy that wants to be cleared you can only attract the same, so take the initiative and do the work Now.

To make your decision:

1)Sit in silence and tune into your Higher Self.

2)Move all of the energy from your head to your heart... place your hand on your heaart.

3)Ask from the heart what the best decision is for the highest good of all.

4)Be committed to your decision and set boundaries right away.

5)Have a full proof plan in place for when you want to step out of bounds

I know that you will meake the right powerful choice and decide what is for the greatest evolution of all... moving toward healthy loving relating.

Many blessings on your higher path,

Christel